YK’s 365 Release: Day 56

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Sex is a wonderful thing. Knowing how to have great sex is even better.

This has nothing to do with how many partners you’ve had or how often. Some people fit well together, some people know what makes them feel good, and some people just turn each other on.

Listening to your partner is extraordinarily important. Knowing yourself is equally important. Keeping it interesting is also critical.

I used to give workshops on sex, safer sex, toys, BDSM, and alternative sex practices. This ranged from giving workshops on skill and technique, role-playing, using toys or other apparatuses,  to the most taboo of topics. I think people asked me to give workshops and demonstrations because I have a very open mind about everything.

To me sex transverses a multitude of sensations, preferences and emotions. I thrive in sensuality and thoroughly enjoy the smells, tastes, touch and sounds of it. As with everything, I will try everything at least twice, my creative mind incorporates an elaborate imaginative side. I indulge my partner in corporeal as well as mental pleasure and decadence. I pursue a range of experiences, from raw to tender, clean to dirty. I know what my own affinities are and I seek them out. I am ravenous and insatiable. There are multiple levels that are purely sensory, carnal, some that are emotional, and others that are transcendental. And great sex increases endorphins, which of course, make us even happier.

What I’ve found through my own experience as well as tales from many individuals is that tried and true, enjoying each other is the most important factor.

When you enjoy yourself, it means you are doing what makes you happy and therefore feel good. This means you are asking for what you want and desire. It means you are also asking for what you need. It means you are in the moment. When you enjoy the other person it means you are listening, it means you are compatible and able to feed each other’s bodies.

When you give workshops on sex, you tend to get donations of lube, condoms (none expired, some flavored) and safer sex supplies. So now I have large buckets filled with these. Lube and condoms can be used by everyone for many different things, actions and situations together or alone. That’s all I’ll say about that here. I have kept these because you can never ever have too much lube or too many condoms.

Have fun. Feel good. Name your desire. Be fearless. Enjoy yourself and one another.

So on Day 56 of my 365 Release I’ll be giving away sex supplies, because everyone should have plenty. Supplies. And sex.


[I created the 365 Release Project to practice non-attachment, letting go and change by giving away 1 thing a day for 1 year. The background, vision and guidelines to the 365 RELEASE project are here. The running list of everything I have released is here.]

2 responses to “YK’s 365 Release: Day 56”

  1. […] Day 56 (11/2/10): safer sex supplies [pragmatism] […]

  2. ffloodi says:

    ashe and amen!!

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